Fall in Love with Yourself: Why You Need to Start Dating… You
- Feb 4
- 2 min read
How do we learn to fall in love with ourselves?
We date ourselves!
Yes, really.
Think about it—when we enter a romantic relationship or build a meaningful friendship, love doesn’t just appear. It unfolds. We get to know the person over time. We ask questions. We listen deeply. We notice what lights them up and what dims their spark. We learn about their passions, their fears, their quirks, and their dreams.
This is the dating process - the getting-to-know-you phase.
It’s the same path we need to walk when cultivating self-love.
So, I ask….
Why Dating Yourself Matters
When was the last time you truly spent time with you?
Not just the version of you checking things off a to-do list or responding to everyone else’s needs. But the real, unfiltered you—the one underneath the roles and responsibilities.
When was the last time you…
Asked yourself meaningful questions?
Revisited what you actually enjoy (because yes, those things evolve)?
Took note of what’s driving you right now?
Witnessed your fears with compassion?
Held space for your wildest dreams?
We wouldn’t expect to love someone we never spend time with. So why do we expect self-love to show up when we haven’t slowed down enough to connect with ourselves?
Just as in relationships, when we don't spend dedicated time with ourselves, we forget who we are and begin to feel ungrounded.
The Cost of Disconnection
When we neglect this connection, something subtle but significant happens: we begin to forget who we are. We feel ungrounded, uncertain, and often emotionally depleted. Not because something is wrong with us—but because we’ve lost touch with our inner world.
The culprit?
The busyness of life. It fills our hours but empties our sense of self if we’re not careful.
The Solution: Slowing Down to Reconnect
Falling in love with yourself isn’t about bubble baths (though those can be nice).
It’s about presence.
About giving yourself permission to slow down and turn inward. To date yourself—on purpose.
This could mean:
Journaling to hear your thoughts more clearly
Taking a walk without your phone
Sitting with a question that matters to you
Checking in with what you want, not just what’s expected
Over time, this quiet intimacy with yourself deepens.
You rediscover your voice.
You remember your essence.
And from that place, self-love becomes a natural extension of self-knowledge.
Want to Start Dating Yourself Today?
I have a few tools for you!
FREE Journaling Guide:
This 7-day journaling guide, Listening for Your Inner Hero’s Whispers offers daily reflective prompts, guided writing practices, and mindfulness exercises designed to help you reconnect with your authentic self. In just 10–15 minutes a day, you'll gain clarity, overcome self-doubt, and take meaningful steps toward the life you desire. → www.catherinesipher.com/7-day-guide Monthly Journaling Guides:
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